Your Brakes Are Emotional Control Tool #2
When a vehicle is moving at a speed or in a direction that we do not want, we can stop it by applying the brakes. The runaway train of emotions
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Essential Tools to Control Runaway Emotions
Now that we’ve completed the essential preparatory steps, it’s time to name and discuss the essential tools we need to control runaway emotions. We’ve prepared by gaining knowledge of our
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How the Temperaments Handle Runaway Emotions
Runaway emotions are not respecters of which temperament we happen to be. Each temperament handles or mishandles runaway emotions with different goals, pressures, and methods. The cool, calm NT is not
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Identify Your Emotion and Analyze It
As we continue learning about tools for handling our emotions, we move today from awareness to identification. What is the feeling/emotion? Please identify your emotion.  Sometimes a detailed analysis is necessary
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Build All Your Mental Tools
Wherever possible, I have chosen to use friendly, open-ended questions that will direct our attention to the root causes of emotional trouble and help us choose the right tool. We
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The High EQ of the NF
Having examined the high EQ challenges of the SP, SJ, and NT, we now address the EQ challenges of the NF. Â If you are an NF, you know the challenges
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The High EQ of the Calm NT
Two temperaments down and two to go.  To continue, today, let’s look at the calm NT.  I say “calm” because that is the NT’s prime emotion and their main emotion
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The SJ’s High EQ
In our previous article, we observed that living in our strengths determines the nature of our emotions (positive if we live in our strengths, and negative if we don’t) and the power
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How to Achieve a High EQ
Living in our strengths determines the nature of our emotions (positive if we live in our strengths, and negative if we don’t) and the power to control our emotions, which comes from
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Two Paths to Emotionally Intelligent Behavior
Management of emotion is accomplished in different ways for different people.  Each temperament becomes emotionally intelligent by different methods and applications. This should be obvious by now.  However, there are
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Balance Is Not Nature’s Way
Some people think that the goal of emotional intelligence is balance. Keep everything in moderation, they say — your anger, fear, hope, and love (to name a few candidates for
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What Will Knowing Myself Do For Me?
“What will knowing myself do for me?” you ask. It can provide you with all the benefits listed below and more. Knowing ourselves is life changing for most of us.Â
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