Discovering the trigger of the cause of your emotion will help you save yourself from repeating the event.  The trigger is not always the cause.  Stress can be a trigger, as can tiredness or low self-esteem.  Irritability from loss of inner energy, a deep seated sense of shame, guilt, even a mistake can be a trigger.  These can cause anger, irritability, self damnation, denial, and a host of reactions.  The trigger is what sets off the reaction, which becomes the direct cause of an emotion.  Many triggers are the reason for repeated emotional events which, because they are repeated, contribute to unintelligent emotional habits.

 Knowing the Trigger of the Cause Puts Us Ahead of the Game

Triggers are essential pieces of knowledge for an emotionally intelligent person.  Knowledge of the triggers that affect us most puts us ahead of the game, helping us focus on dealing with conditions that are likely to cause us to loose control.  

Name Your Common Triggers

Name your common triggers.  Memorize the list.  I’m not kidding!  To be aware of the nature of the conditions or circumstances that trigger our negative emotions is the foundation of emotional intelligence.  One of my triggers is being inwardly drained.  And another is the anxiety of not knowing the future.

The next step is to manage the trigger. 

For example:  If stress is the trigger of a lot of our your emotional failures, follow these simple steps:  

1. 1. Identify what kind of stress places you in jeopardy and under what circumstances.
   2. Ascertain how you can lessen the frequency, intensity, or damage of the stressful events.  Go through the frequency, intensity, and damage aspects of the stress one-at-a-time and make your notes of how the stress can be alleviated or how you can become more happily related to it.  
   3. Take one improvement at a time and make that happen.  
   4. Proceed to another until you have done all you can to lessen the stress.  

Identifying and Managing the Trigger of the Cause of Your Emotion = Higher EQ

Once you have done this you will automatically be more intelligent because you will have minimized the occasions for loss of control.  

Avoid the Misapprehension That You are Super Human

Not paying attention to triggers makes little sense.  Ignoring them with the reason that you should be able to handle any pressure and control your emotions under any circumstance suggests you think you are Superman or Superwoman.  A glance in the mirror or a conversation with a friend should settle that misapprehension.

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THE WONDERFUL TRUTH ABOUT EMOTION

Are there such things as intelligent emotions? Intelligently Emotional will argue that there are. And they are the ones we must focus on if we want to know success.

Ray W. Lincoln will show us how understanding the patterns of emotion in our temperament will enable us to manage our emotions effectively. If you long to know how to understand your emotions and the immense power of your feelings, Intelligently Emotional  will show you the way.  The path to real emotional intelligence requires learning to partner with intelligent emotions.

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Our first and most important task in a world-changing mission is to learn how to think straight (and teach straight thinking) and combat the insurgence of crooked thinking in our culture and in our world today. If we become passive victims of this crooked way of thinking, we promote it. Furthermore, if we remain silent, we also give it credence. In Who Am I?, the reader progresses from how we have become “crooked thinkers” to how to break out of this prison of the mind to become instruments of change for a better world.  We do this by recognizing from where we derive our value as humans. “Build a straight and powerful mind.” ~ Ray W. Lincoln