What is the name for your feeling? It is important that we name our feelings. What we name a feeling determines our perspective and thoughts about that feeling. Calling fear “concern” is a way to see it as something less than real fear, when it may be full blown fear and we don’t want to recognize we are scared. Likewise, calling hope a “wish” lessens the power and motivation of true hope.
Build Your Own Vocabulary for Your Feelings.
We all give to words different meanings and character. We load them with varying degrees of emotion and we choose names that aid our emotional authenticity.
- Use honest words like, “That’s my pride again,” or “that’s my revengeful thoughts,” or “I’m having a self-pity party.” Honesty is paramount to success when identifying feelings. The shock of being downright honest about our feelings is an immediate change of mental focus and, at times, can (by itself) defeat the negative feeling. Don’t call anger “upset” or fear “concern.”
- Use names that motivate you to get rid of negative feelings. If you strongly dislike the word “pity,” then name all of your emotions that border on pity with a name that means pity to you. Try “poor me” or “pity party” or “self-pity,” etc.
- Is yours the only feeling? Can you identify the likely feelings you may have on behalf of others: empathy. Name what you feel the other person is experiencing and, again, be honest. Act compassionately toward them if compassion is the correct emotion. When we turn outward to care about the feelings of others, we change focus and change the energy center of our brains. There is no quicker way to defeat unwanted feelings than to deprive them of energy.
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