What does life look like for those who don’t believe they must accept the results of their choices and own the consequences of whatever those choices bring to them? Let’s sample the life of a loser.
“Blame Game Experts” Don’t Own the Consequences
Losers are the experts at the blame game. It’s their way to escape reality. However, it leads to a twisted self-image that has to find “reasons” to make them feel good. All those reasons in the blame game are lies — or at best, part lies. But a “part lie” is not the whole truth, correct? So, let’s not fool ourselves. What benefit is a part lie if we want to live with the truth?
Loving the Lie
Losers always love lies more than they love the whole truth. In fact, they hate the truth because it does not give them an escape route. Do you remember the story of Adam and Eve in the garden of Eden? These first two humans, when faced with their first real test, chose to play the blame game. They blamed the serpent. They blamed each other. And we have been doing it ever since. Our history tells us that what’s next does not seem to be teaching us the most obvious lesson we need to learn.
Failure to Own the Consequences
What’s next for the athletes in the blame game is not healthy self-respect. Nor is it the promise of how to succeed in life. If we use the blame game when we hate the consequences of our actions, we will soon turn that blame on the people we love and those who love us most. Tell me that’s not true! We will soon be out of one relationship and into the next, and out again and into the next repeatedly, until we decide we are the only “honest” people on earth and try to live closed off from all others — if that’s really possible. It’s not. So where has this failed policy led us?
Remember, the blame game does not “rejoice in the truth.” Instead, it rejoices in what it falsely believes is the truth. Even then, its rejoicing is nervously hollow. False thinking is crooked thinking. Crooked thinking is drunk with its own condemnation of others and cannot walk the straight line of truth. We have met people intoxicated with their own concepts of themselves and they reek of narcissism and paranoia.
What’s next for those who won’t face the consequences of their choices and actions? It’s the opposite of a life well-lived. It’s playing fast and loose with the whole truth. Please, let’s all of us take a vow not to find out what that feels like.
In my new book Who Am I?, I describe how we have become “crooked thinkers” and how to break out of this prison of the mind to become instruments of change for a better world by recognizing the source of our value as humans. You can get your copy HERE. (Psst! Subscribers to my weekly updates can receive a 15% discount and free shipping from that link!)
Lean into the whole truth by discovering the truth of who YOU are — the “Real You” — and who your children truly are. Discover how to best engage your children in finding the whole truth. Our team at InnerKinetics is ready to provide that help. If you’d like some assistance, you can request a consultation and an InnerKinetics consultant will call you to answer questions and schedule your meeting. Schedule an Initial Consultation. If you are more independent and want to cut to the chase, you need not wait for a call back because you can get answers to your questions and schedule your session HERE.
THE WAY TO HAVE A HEALTHY MENTAL SYSTEM
Weekly Help for Your Mind/Brain
This weekly addition to my articles provides practical guidance for the application of commonly known facts about brain health.
Do What You Did When You Were a Child
Repeat and remember what you want to remember over and over again with intensity. Let’s think of the power of both these things: repetition and intensity.
Repetition’s value is based on the fact that what we don’t use, we lose. Don’t repeat and you stand the chance of losing what you were trying to remember. Remember, as a child you repeated things in order to fasten them in the mind. Don’t expect to learn another way when you are older.
Intensity is crucial, too. We remember events that aroused intense emotions more than we remember events with little emotional content. Therefore, we need to remember when we are older to repeat that memory often, attaching some feeling to what we want to remember. “That made me feel ________, and as a result, I am upset, happy, content, etc.”
Repeat with a conscious intensity (emotion).